How to know if your lady or gentleman is ready for marriage

Marriage is an important decision that needs to be taken by those who know what it is and are ready in all aspects to enter into it with another person. A lady or gentleman is ready for marriage if he or she has prepared mentally, physically, and emotionally and is ready to start a long-term relationship with another person of the opposite gender with the intention of living together as a legally married couple.

The readiness of a lady or gentleman for marriage has different meanings to distinct individuals, and each may look out for their features and qualities to say whether they are personally ready or not. Some men and women see themselves as ready for marriage after they attain a certain age, for others, completing their degree or master’s is an indication that they are ready and for some, having their apartment is an indication. The individual and the means of determining marriage readiness vary.

However, apart from the above individual indicators, some general indicators can be used to tell if a lady or gentleman is ready for marriage and should be taken seriously.

Once the ability to determine independently and with the help of the partner if he or she is ready for marriage is key as it prepares the mind, body, and soul to start working towards an official marriage union and to spend life with the other.

Below are some of the critical signs to look out for, which can serve as critical indicators that your partner is ready for marriage.

I. Level of commitment to the relationship

A partner who is ready for marriage, be it a man or a woman, must make time for the other. He or she must be ready to spend quality time with the other and avoid repetitive excuses about work and other responsibilities. He or she should be a supportive person and should be communicating openly.

Committed partners make sacrifices for each other and don’t expect favours to be returned, at least not immediately.

II. Must have a clear vision for the future

Your man or woman must have a futuristic vision that considers you in the vision. He or she should be using “We” often when talking about or discussing this vision with you. In fact, discussing this vision together is key to making both confident about their ability to have a future, live together, and to grow a family.

Discussions about the future should often start with the marriage you want to initiate. If your man or woman is uncomfortable discussing your marriage and future now, that could be a red flag. If he or she is not comfortable talking about marriage between you two, that is another red flag.

You two must be able to discuss the importance of having a shared vision for the future in marriage.

If your partner is able to set a clear vision for his future, such as setting goals and actively working towards them, you can be sure that he or she is worth your life and time in marriage and that he or she thinks about the future from today.

He or she always portrays you in the best light, work on their weaknesses

III. Must be financially responsible, stable, and reliable

Love is good but, it is often dehydrated by the absence of financial resources.

 Your individual financial stability is key to being mature and ready for marriage because in marriage, you will be depending on each other. Both of you must have independent financial strength.

He or she must be an individual who is careful with irresponsible spending, no matter his or her financial status.

A lady or gentleman is ready for marriage if he also has a steady job, saves money, and not carrying excessive debt.

If your man or woman whom you are planning to marry is jobless, do not be blinded by love. Joblessness of the other can create over-dependence on the other and if that dependence is not dealt with early, it can cause other serious troubles and affect the finances of the couple after marriage.

IV. Strong support system

Your partner or would-be husband or wife must have and bring on board strong and reliable support. This includes his or her very close relationship with his or her family and friends.

He or she should be willing to introduce you to those within his support system.

Apart from family members, he or she must be willing to show or introduce you to his or her friends easily. If you do not know the family (Sisters, Brothers, Mum, and Dad) and you have been in a relationship all this while, this is a serious red flag.

You must also know the friends of your partner because, they are important to your success, comfort, and marriage.

You need them all and their acceptance and by your partner introducing you and them to you, he or she is giving you access to those that matter in their lives. If your partner is hiding such things from you, start asking questions.

He or she must be doing some of these

1. Talk About Their Parent’s Happy Marriage.
2. Planning Your Life Together.
3. They Want You to Meet the Family.

V. Willing to compromise

The importance of you and your partner’s compromise cannot be overemphasized. It is key and will be important in your marriage. Your partner and you can be deemed to be ready for marriage if you are open and discuss issues, open up on things that the other must know among others

Signs that your partner is willing to compromise include, but are not limited to being open to discussing differences and finding mutually beneficial solutions.

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Conclusion

It is important to note that, while the points explained above indicate whether your would-be life partner is ready for marriage, it is good to engage in open and honest conversations with your partner about your relationship and future together.