As part of the ongoing orientation for freshmen who gained admission to study at the University of Professional Studies, Accra (UPSA), Prof. Okoe Amartey, VC of UPSA, has admonished female students to be extra careful with male students who come proposing to them.
He indicated that such proposals have a format on campus, and the male students will use the same format to propose or attempt to start campus relationships with as many of the females on campus as possible.
Male students entering into relationships with their colleagues is not known; however, UPSA has constantly advised male students to stock female students who say no to their proposals.
The advice from Prof. Okoe Amartey, VC of UPSA, did not come as a surprise, as there have been a series of broken heart experiences on campus. For some students, a campus relationship ends once they complete school, and this kind of relationship is commonly known as “Help me finish my programme.”
“When they (male students) come to you with all the flowering proposals, just know that it is a format. They say the same to other ladies. Do not fall for it. Trust me, it will end in tears.”
Prof. Okoe Amartey, VC of UPSA, said this while addressing first-year female students at the university.
Such relationships sometimes mess with the focus of the student, who is in school to study and acquire a degree.
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Here are ten tips for all students entering university, regardless of gender, to build healthy relationships and focus on academic success:
- Develop strong communication skills. Learn to express your needs and wants assertively and listen actively to others.
- Set clear boundaries. Understand and communicate your limits in relationships, both romantic and platonic.
- Trust your gut: If something feels off in a relationship, don’t ignore it. Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or counsellor.
- Focus on academics: Remember, your primary goal is to get an education. Manage your time effectively and prioritise your studies.
- Build a support network: Surround yourself with positive and supportive people who respect you and your goals.
- Seek help if needed: Don’t hesitate to seek help from counsellors, advisors, or hotlines if you’re struggling with relationships or personal issues.
- Challenge stereotypes: Be mindful of harmful assumptions about people based on their gender, race, or any other group affiliation.
- Celebrate diversity: appreciate the differences that make your campus community unique and learn from each other.
- Promote respect: Treat everyone with dignity and respect, regardless of their background or beliefs.
- Empower yourself: Believe in your ability to make informed choices and build healthy relationships based on mutual respect and understanding.
Remember, university is a time for personal and academic growth. By focusing on developing healthy relationships, effective communication, and self-awareness, all students can create a safe and supportive environment for themselves and others.