Check Out What The Bible Says About A Man Who Cheats On His Wife

The Bible teaches that marriage is between one man and one woman, and that they should love and commit to one another for the rest of their lives. When a spouse betrays his wife, what steps should we take? Exactly how does the Bible speak to this issue? In the eyes of God, adultery is a terrible sin that must be avoided at all costs.

The English Standard Version (ESV) of the Bible states that a man who commits adultery against his wife is a fool who lacks all reason. The book of Proverbs warns against engaging in adultery in chapter six, verse 32: “He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it ruins himself.” Being unfaithful to your partner is a reflection of a lack of discipline.

Moreover, God will judge s3xually immoral and unfaithful people harshly, as it is written in Hebrews 13:14: “Let marriage be held in honour among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, because God will punish the s3xually immoral and unfaithful.” Despite the fact that human flesh is inherently frail, it’s still important to do what you can to keep from cheating on your mate, which is something God views very negatively.

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 Why do men Cheat

1. Unmet Needs

At the very core of cheating, the most important factor involved is unmet needs. For example, what does a man feel he’s not getting enough of from a relationship, that he goes outside of it to get? On both sides, there are always unmet needs, whether they’re conscious or subconscious. In fact, cheating often occurs in the heat of the moment, due to a stupid decision driven by a desire from a subconscious level.

That doesn’t make it ok, but it does make it worth understanding. Mainly, because living with unmet needs can damage relationships, by causing unhappiness, resent, disappointment or frustration. Obviously, this leads to loss of interest, insecurity, communication breakdowns and, as a consequence, infidelity. Sometimes a guy won’t know his needs are unmet, he’ll simply act on the bad feelings this creates. Other times he’ll know, but feels like he can’t express himself. Or, perhaps he’ll talk about his needs, but they remain unfulfilled for whatever reason.

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For example, if a man is rejected s3xually, doesn’t feel like he can please you or maybe even provide for you, chances are he’ll feel emasculated. Despite it sounding like a cliche, men generally want to feel like men. He doesn’t want to feel weak, insignificant or unattractive.

Other unmet needs include feeling unloved or unappreciated and therefore seeking affection somewhere else. If, for example, a woman is always threatening to leave, he might feel insecure about the relationship connection and cheat to subconsciously give himself the more secure position in the relationship.

Then, there are unmet needs that don’t really have anything to do with the relationship. He could have poor self esteem and, deep down, doesn’t think he deserves you. Or, he might be addicted to the excitement and passion that comes from s3x with a new person or even cheating in itself. Know that you can’t do anything to control these types of factors, as only he can choose to work on them – or not.

2. Fear of Loss

For a man, his fear of loss is a prime risk factor, with regard to cheating. More precisely though, it comes down to his fear of being single, though this usually operates on more of a subconscious level. It helps to think about it this way. Lots of people say they’re not afraid to be single, right? However, if they cheat, especially when they don’t immediately tell their partner, they’re flat out lying. Someone who really isn’t scared of being single isn’t likely to cheat. Why? Because they’ll just break things off. Everyone else is either scared of being alone, or of not having the connection anymore, whereby cheating seems an easier option.